We all have those relatives, neighbors and friends, who would love to give us their opinions on our looks, careers, lifestyle etc. Some of their opinions are really helpful, they actually wanna guide you but most of the time, they just want to insult and criticize you. We sometimes take their useless opinions so seriously, since it’s confusing whether it’s feedback or criticism. Feedback is good for self improvement, whereas criticism is demotivating for us.
What are the differences between Feedback and Criticism? How can we define, if someone really wants to guide us or not by their opinions? Let’s know the difference between them and clear our confusion! It depends on some factors and here these are:
How close we are with People, who give their opinions about us.
Closeness depends on how people think of you, like your mother can’t criticize you for being fat but you may be bullied by your classmates. If you are doing some work in office and your boss gives her opinions on your work, so it’s feedback but if any of your colleagues says, “I would have done better in this task”,” you are newbie” etc etc, s/he is trying to criticize you.
If the opinion is with solution or without solution.
Genuine feedbacks come with solutions, for example if your friend says, you look horrible because of your dark circles,no one will ever date you blah blah!, this is criticism. And if your best friend says the same thing, like you look horrible with dark circles, you must take proper sleep or see the doctor, this is helpful feedback. Track the process and content of opinions. Genuine people often focus on solutions rather than faults but pathetic people always see faults in others.
The way someone gives opinion.
The way of explaining, could reveal the real intentions of someone. Mean people always use bad language because, they only want to criticize others but your well wishers would never use mean language while giving their opinions on you. They would not create joke or drama, they simply keep their point in front of you.
Place of opinions
Yes, you read it right! Place plays an important role in this matter, for example there are some people, who love to give their opinions in social gatherings, 90% of them just want to criticize you in public, otherwise mature people, the real ones who care for you, will never broadcast their opinions about you in public. Our true well wishers choose right place and time to present their authentic feedbacks to us, they prefer privacy.
Frequency of opinions
Imagine if someone always finds faults in you, whenever you meet him or her, s/he often makes comments on unnecessary things like your dress, looks or even skin, in short all the small details about you, their only intention, is to pick the error in you. even if you don’t have any fault at that particular situation, then my dear, you are being degraded by that person. I tell you my personal experience, my sister is beautiful but we have an aunt, who criticizes her for her looks, every time she meets her. We now understand that she has this bad habit of criticizing good looking women. Authentic people don’t frequently give their opinions, they just tell once in a while,without hurting other’s feelings. And their opinions are always logical and reasonable.
Content of Opinions
You are black or you are overweight! Which one is feedback between these two, obviously the last one. Because we all know we can’t do anything about our color complexion but we could lose our weight. But still there are some people, who give their feedback on unrequired topics like you are so tall or you are short, you look bad I mean all they talk about, is your personal life. The difference between criticism and feedback is, criticism is all about your personal life and feedback includes other aspects of you, it’s more about improvement, which you really need, whereas criticism is all about degrading you by criticizing your personal life and looks and believe me some people really enjoy it.
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