So here we are..on ghosting! have you ever been ghosted? or have you ghosted someone? Well most of you got ghosted but you haven’t realized. Let’s discuss what the hell is ghosting? Let’s take the example of Ms.X, she is cute, smart and confident, she met a guy on dating App, they both started texting each other, it has been several weeks since they have been texting each-other, X really wants to meet this guy, she asks him for out, but he makes excuses, you know what, this guy talks to lots of girls and he texts them in such a way that, they all feel he is showing interest in them..funny but sad! So let’s further discuss what happens with X. X texts him every single day, firstly he replies her lately and now he suddenly stops replying her texts. X sends her bunch of messages but this guy not even seeing her messages, like she matters nothing to him and it’s true! X is never the priority of this guy because as I told you, he talks to lots of women just for fun. This guy not only ghosted X but he has ghosted lots of women.

Ghosting- When someone suddenly stops all communication without any reason and warning or start ignoring you. It really sucks!

How does it feel to be ghosted? it feels extremely bad, it’s like someone just dumped you for no reason. you feel used, or someone just took you for granted. you just get crazy about this act of ghosting, you start finding the reason, why this person ghosted you? or you think what wrong did you do? why they are ignoring you? You actually give shit about that shitty person, who just left you. You know 80% of people who use social media or any dating App, have been ghosted. People who have this experience, they get a kind of physical pain. They start questioning themselves, they see themselves worthless, they even start questioning their physical appearance. This is so frustrating, it gets people in lot’s of negativity. It hurts their feeling. It’s devastated.

How to deal with that mental pain which you get after being ghosted?

  • Accept it – Accept that you are ghosted rather than building fake expectations about that person.
  • Recognize it- know that you are being ghosted, If a person ignores you without any reason.
  • Forget it- it was just an online person, whom you hardly met in person. you were just an option for him/her and it’s good he or she did it now rather than later on.
  • Just move on– Life is beautiful, so explore the beauty of life rather than digging out the ugly memories of that ghost (Who ghosted you).
  • Learn something- Well! the good news is.. you may learn the lesson with this experience, so you must not ghost someone in your life,neither you get ghosted again.
  • Create a hobby- Try to learn something new, which you have never tried. This process will make you happy and forget about that bad experience.
  • Hang out- Hang out with your family and friends, and enjoy your life as you used to do before that person.
  • Make people aware- Well, now you have this social responsibility to make people know the term “ghosting”! hehehe literally not social responsibility but you should share this with people who are close to you, specially your teenage siblings and cousins.
  • Get back to the goals– Just work hard on your goals and this time with more concentration !
  • Remember this quote- We don’t get what we want, we get what is best for us.

Ghosting may not be the major crime, because it doesn’t kill the person physically but mentally, You need to understand that being mentally hurt it just like being physically hurt. Stop ghosting if you do so! you don’t have any idea about the damage which you are doing. Stop playing with people’s emotions when you have video games to play with. Stop ghosting someone, just because you are feeling alone or want to escape from stress. Stop making people believe that you like them even love them. Be human not ghost!

By the act of ghosting we may not kill someone physically but we definitely kill that person emotionally.

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